You Become What You Excuse
Little By Little The Big Demo Job Is Completed
Excuses are comprised of ego and defenses.
Excuses are the way we temporarily purchase comfort in exchange for long-term stultification. We make up some lie and then lose our edge over time. The trade-off is perfect, exact, and ever-present.
Think of the man who had a devouring mother. He was invaded by this woman on every front. She crossed his boundaries, violated his privacy, badmouthed his opportunities. All roads led back to her. If she was a feminist, maybe he trained in the same profession she did. He had to get her approval for every friend and girlfriend that came around. She overrode her son and taught him that this was only proper and that he should venerate her in the process.
This man is prepped to walk on eggshells around women in adulthood. He is ready to give up his personal power for the sake of romantic love. He is a pushover, just like mama ordered.
Consider the man who had a tyrant of a father, more in the "traditional" mold of the family structure. The father beat him on his buttocks ("spanking") if he "broke a rule". Big displays of anger replete with threats and maybe things broken around the house were the means of keeping the boy in line. Perhaps the father drank to ease his conscience or sat in steely silence in a recliner, watching the TV or aimlessly thumbing a smartphone.
This kind of parenting preps the man for compliance with tyrannical authority and a life of "action movies" where ninnyheaded superheroes flit around and have magic battles. He thirsts for goopy, socialist justice now and then, like a “good” spanking. He is a goober “culture enjoyer” and the window dressings can be camo and dirt bikes or homosexuality and indie bands. The core is the same.
It's one thing to have been a victim of an abusive parenting style, it's another thing to drift further and further into adulthood in a state of ignorance of one's own malformation.
What all too commonly happens is that people are simply NPC carbon copies of their parents. They idealized their parents, in order to survive their insanity, and they simply never stop doing this as adults. What was a survival strategy becomes an excuse - an adult choice to continue to subsidize bad behavior.
Since most people will move Heaven and earth to excuse their parents, in order to maintain their fragile idealization of them, they buy into the corruption over time and, past a certain point, simply become their parents. The intergenerational transmission of corruption and evil is complete.
I was recently watching, for about 40 seconds, a video of a "sailing family" of attractive, sun-kissed Australians who were, "Happy To Announce (We Made This For You Guys!)" in their video title. I’ve thought about sailing for a while. I thought I'd see what it was about.
They had partnered with a number of other sailing families to offer an "app" that would allow your family on the mainland to track your every move and "stay in touch" with you. Basically a surveillance app for your family you're unconsciously trying to sail away from. It took me 40 seconds to figure this out. The video was maybe 30 minutes long. Nothing but hot air.
You can't accuse these people of a crime since what they're doing is voluntary and in the free market, yet there is definitely a criminal element to it. They're a 1.7M sub YouTube channel of sell-outs who didn't speak out on behalf of Europe's moral philosophers being viciously censored from the market square. They're fake, travel-enjoyers hawking the age-old corruption at the heart of every family system: reverting to the "loved ones" back on the mainland. If these mainlanders are "the best people in the world", as the sales pitch asserts, why can you only stand to have them on the boat for 3 or 4 days at a time? Why does alcohol inevitably become involved?
We become what we excuse.
Watch as people who keep corruption in their lives become corrupt themselves. All those cute little degenerate habits that make people "cool" as teenagers and young adults harden into disagreeable hard edges in a person's late 20's. The job is usually complete by the mid-30's, when it becomes semi-impossible for a person to turn it around. Even soft lies become hardened lies. It doesn’t even take an addiction to turn sour. There are a myriad of copes that appear pro-social on their surface that a person can lose themselves in. To the uninitiated, it’s “success”!