Isolation Is Not The Way
A number of friendships in the past ten years have gone the same way for me: I am discarded in favor of ideology.
People don’t invest much into their relationships - that way when ideology comes knocking, it isn’t so painful for them to pull up stakes and retreat further into their isolation.
It is all too easy to be alone with an ideology. Ideology is what drives the isolation in people’s lives. They get wrapped up in marching orders from someone else and in order to maintain that person’s favor, with whom they usually do not have a personal relationship, they will give the ax to whatever connection has become inconvenient.
I will usually fight for the connection but when I sense the other’s person heart is not in it, I will hold tight and tread water.
Ideology is sweeping the world.
It is all too easy now to find positive social feedback in exchange for suspending your own personal judgment on what to do.
A general mobilization is happening.
Everything is lifeboat ethics now.
I still don’t agree. I maintain my autonomy. I am independent. I have no ideology.
Comradeship isn’t friendship. It isn’t connection. It is mutual management. I manage you and you manage me. This is what militancy is about.
Who is plugging you into “the fight”? Who is couching things in terms of “a great struggle”? Why are they doing that? Do they drive isolation and disconnection in your life? Do you have to tiptoe around these thoughts? Is it no longer okay to entertain them?
I resist isolation.
I am my own.